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Hubs and I took a ride on Saturday. This was our annual “Ride to the shore to find a place for our vacation” This is something that just the two of us do. We never share this with our kids. We have always gotten babysitters for them. Now that they are older, we just leave. Maybe we will stay overnight, or maybe we’ll come back that evening.
We drive along in companionable silence. We’ve been together for almost 28 years, so we don’t always need to talk. We can still look at roadkill and suddenly crack up laughing because we thought the same thing. “That’s a strange place for a raccoon to take a nap.”
We are trapped. If there is something major that needs discussion, this is the time to do it. No one can walk away. No one can slam a door. No one will walk into the room to disturb us.
We are trapped. After only 20 minutes of driving, we lose the major radio stations. It is either silence or CDs. Sometimes we choose CDs. Normally there is a heated debate about which CDs will join us for the ride. It is something that we both need to agree on or else we don’t bring it. Saturday, we left quickly, so there was no debate. I grabbed the CD case, added a few Hub’s newer CDs and we ran.
We were trapped. I listened to the oldies. We drove along with Roy Orbison, Del Shannon, and Percy Faith. We were serenaded by Little Eva, Martha and the Vandellas, and the Supremes. I didn’t get annoyed or want to tear out my hair.
We were trapped. Hubs listened to Rammstein, Megadeth and Violent Femmes. He didn’t complain. He didn’t tell me to turn it down. I noticed that his fingers tapped the steering wheel in time to the music.
It is interesting the things that you can learn about another person when you are trapped together. Even after nearly 28 years, we are learning about each other. It took this long for us to actually enjoy the other’s taste in music. We talked about what he enjoys about running the business. We talked about what I like about blogging. Yes, we talked about you. He asked what draws me to your writing. He was interested.
We were trapped, yet not trying to escape.
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Tug
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 01:07 pmAh…that is so sweet!
Tugs last blog post..The Gratitude Campaign
Loving Annie
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 01:33 pmTrapped and not wanting to escape after all those years is lovely
Loving Annies last blog post..Update on Starbucks Man…
Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 01:48 pmTug-Aww…shut up! (Just kidding.)
Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 01:49 pmLovingAnnie-It was weird,yet that’s exactly how it seemed. Normally, we’re like animals trying to gnaw off our own feet!
Tug
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 01:53 pmI WAS SERIOUS.
Tugs last blog post..The Gratitude Campaign
Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 01:56 pmTug-I know you were. That’s why I said shut up. heh heh. I get all blushy….I don’t take compliments well. But that’s just me. Thanks.
Amber
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 02:11 pmMetal Mom,
Aww! I’m not 100% sure WHY exactly I loved this entry so much, but I did. Maybe it’s because the two of you seem so much like my own parents. Or maybe it’s just nice to see two people that are still so in love after all these years - though all the ups AND downs.
Enjoy your impending vacation!
Ambers last blog post..PMS Is An Evil Whore!
Trukindog
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 03:49 pmWhat, are ya gettin all mushy gushy on us now sheesh.
Just kiddin darlin that’s really pretty damn cool, I almost envey you…almost.
Trukindogs last blog post..DEADLY VIPERS OR DINNER FOR A MONTH ?
Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 03:58 pmAmber-In my dreams of the future, this happens for you too.
Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 04:00 pmTrukindog-While we were driving, we passed a rig dealership and I saw all those big ole cabs gleaming their gorgeous colors in the afternoon sun. I thought of you for a second. And then they were gone and so were you, you big lug!
Amber
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 05:14 pmMetal Mom,
Thanks a lot for making me get all teary! Haha.
Maybe it’s just the hormones…
Or it could be that that is one of the nicest wishes anyone has ever sent my way.
Thank you
.
Ambers last blog post..PMS Is An Evil Whore!
Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 05:17 pmAmber-What’s the deal with you and Tug? Is this gang up on MM and make her all blushy?
Yeah, I wish it. Oh, and it’s the hormones too!
priss
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 08:02 pmThat’s awesome. WOW - 28 years. That’s a long time, lady. You should be proud of yourself. It sounds like you had a good time, and glad he was finger tapping to the metal.
One of these days I’m going to have to bust out some of my slutty band whore day stories. LOL
Hell, what am I talking about? I still like to get my groove on with a band boy every now and then - even though they’re all half balding and need the little blue pill. LMAO 
Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 08:16 pmPriss-”they’re all half balding and need the little blue pill”. I think that means that they are no longer ‘band boys’
I think we ALL would like for you to share your trashy exploits!!
Trukindog
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 09:10 pmJust knowing I was in your thoughts however briefly makes me all warm and mushy inside heh heh. And whats the deal, I don’t even rate LUG NUT ?
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Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 09:16 pmTrukindog-You’re a dork. (So am I! Don’t get your panties in a twist!)
priss
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 09:31 pmOkay, I’ll toss a few names out and see if you recognize any of them:
Ron Keel
Bret Michaels
Joey DeMaio
Paul Stanley
Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 09:37 pmpriss-SHUT.UP!!! Girl, we need to talk!! Okay….you talk, I’ll listen!!
priss
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 09:40 pmRandy Rampage - Annihilator LMAO! went on tour with them and to this day still chat it up with the road manager
Used to hang out with Sebastian *lick my cooter* Bach when he was in Madame X waaay before Skidrow. *le sigh* Hot damn I am feeling OLD and haggard.
OH, I got LOTSA stories from back in the day. I was always chasing down band dick. LOL
Froggywoogie
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 09:47 pmSo you talked about me? ohmy
Made me strange to read you, 28 years is roughly the time I would still be trapped (yeah) with my ex wife if she hadn’t been an ex lol
Froggywoogies last blog post..Why flight pilots couldn’t have a little fun?
Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 09:56 pmpriss-Check da emailz!
Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 09:57 pmFroggywoogie-Yep, I talked about you! Were your ears ringing?
Teri
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 10:10 pmI’m so glad you had a great time.
And the stations nearer to the Shore points SUCK!
Teris last blog post..Guns
Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 10:42 pmTeri-It doesn’t take them long to disappear. Ten minutes outside of Philly is about it. I always hated it because I never had cassettes or even 8-tracks in the car! Now it’s all about the CDs!! YAY!
Trukindog
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 10:48 pmHow did you know I was wearin YOUR panties ?
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Metalmom
said:
on June 29, 2008 at 11:03 pmTrukindog-I knew because you left an incriminating stain in them!
bubblewench
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 06:16 amSometimes that kind of Trapped is nice.
Matt-Man
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 07:20 amNIcely done post Metal. And I love the picture. Ha. Cheers!!
Matt-Mans last blog post..Matt-Man: Declarin’ It!!
Metalmom
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 07:23 ambubblewench-Yes, it is. The music part of it was totally unexpected this time!
Metalmom
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 07:25 amMattMan-Why thanky kindly, sir!
Finn
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 08:57 amThat’s one very cool thing about being together for a while… you can sit without feeling compelled to talk just to fill the silence.
You talked about me, didn’t you? I hope you said something nice.
Finns last blog post..Should Adam Marry Steve?: A Conversation With God
Robin
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 09:42 amI love that. Erik and I are only going on 6 years but we still end up not even listening to music because we can’t shut up when we’re in the car.
Metalmom
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 09:50 amFinn-All was going so incredibly well, until….He asked me “What was the name of that really hot wench you met in Philly?” That started one of those discussions he couldn’t walk away from!
Metalmom
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 09:51 amRobin-That is cool. We still can’t shut up 95% of the time….actually, it’s ME that can’t shut up!
Grant
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 09:59 amDid you mention that the Internet has put you in touch with psychopathic cannibalistic Voodou devil worshipping metalheads?
Grants last blog post..Out Sick
Metalmom
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 10:04 amGrant-We don’t need to mention that…after all, HE’S the one who married a psychopathic cannibalistic Voodou devil worshipping metalhead!
PS: Sweetie, are you coming back soon?
Fantastagirl
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 11:37 am28 years? I’d say if you haven’t killed each other over music by now, you never will. Mr. Incredible doesn’t like my music, and I don’t really care for his, but when driving together we compromise and listen to a little of both, no one dies. Life is good.
Fantastagirls last blog post..Home
Metalmom
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 02:00 pmFantastagirl-When you can still hang out together and “no one dies” it is indeed good!
Trukindog
said:
on June 30, 2008 at 11:09 pmOops :”>
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Miss Britt
said:
on July 1, 2008 at 01:08 pmOh that is so awesome. It’s good to know that there is always room for learning and growing together.
Miss Britts last blog post..I Went To NYC And All I Got Was 1248 Pictures Of Buildings
Metalmom
said:
on July 1, 2008 at 01:36 pmMiss Britt-Yeah, it’s not always about beating each other up and having hot sex. Sometimes we do other stuff.