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A few months ago, I asked for your strength and you guys came through with gallons. I will need to go to the well once more.
My father-in -law has been in the hospital since before Father’s Day. There are so many medical issues going on with him that there is no way for me to get into it all. But I need to share this.
Dad has gotten to the point where medicine cannot help him, other than to keep him comfortable. The hospital has declared him stable and wants him released to a nursing home or to private in-home nursing care. Neither of these things will last long because his heart is also failing. This means that we’d have to call 911 repeatedly and have him returned to the hospital over and over.
Therefore, he is coming home today. He is stopping his dialysis. His doctors are giving him two weeks (that is optimistic) We are hoping that it will only be for a weekend. I can’t bear for it to take much longer than that.
I love him. As simple as that. I am crying as I type these words. I need to hold up my husband. I need to hold up my children.
I need you to hold me up.
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Teri said:
on July 8, 2008 at 02:26 pmoh sweety, I wish I was physically there. I can’t imagine what you and the family are going through. I hope it’s quick and painless, for everyone.
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Absurdist said:
on July 8, 2008 at 02:34 pmGiant hugs to you and your whole family. We are all here for you to listen, and hold your hand and hug you virtually.
Please keep us up to speed on how things are going. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Avitable said:
on July 8, 2008 at 02:37 pmHang in there. In the end, at least he won’t be in pain anymore.
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DutchBitch said:
on July 8, 2008 at 02:44 pmAwww Hon!!!
I am thinking off you! Hang in there and you know where I am if you need to talk (and don’t be reluctant, even though I have my own shit going on that doesn’t mean I can’t be there for you!)
((((HUGZ))))
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bluepaintred said:
on July 8, 2008 at 02:44 pmWow. The internet sucks. I want to be a friend of yours IN REAL LIFE so that I can be there with you to help. I feel so useless all the way over here.
I will send all my good thoughts and wishes your way. Hugs.
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Poppy said:
on July 8, 2008 at 02:59 pmBig hugs and I’ll be thinking of you. I hope he is as comfortable as possible and that you stay strong until it’s ok to be weak.
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Tug said:
on July 8, 2008 at 03:10 pmYou’ve got it! Hugs, thoughts, prayers for you all…much love.
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Philly said:
on July 8, 2008 at 04:01 pmBeen there last year with my Mom. Get hospice in, they will help, or at least give a little time for yourself. It can be exhausting.
#1
Finn said:
on July 8, 2008 at 08:26 pmHolding you in my thoughts and in my heart. xoxoxox
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Loving Annie said:
on July 8, 2008 at 08:32 pmOh honey, I am so sorry to hear that.
((hugs and more hugs and even more hugs))
There are no words to express the grief of facing the loss of someone you love, and everything they meant to you.
My empathy…
Love,
Loving Annie
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Grant said:
on July 8, 2008 at 10:31 pmI had a couple of nights with my recent illness when I couldn’t sleep due to the pain and sickness and I really thought there was a good chance I might die. I wasn’t afraid, I just wanted it to be over one way or the other. Even so, I can’t imagine what it would be like to be in your FiL’s place. I think you made the best decision, bringing him home and making him comfortable for his remaining time. His pain will pass soon - it’s the survivors whose suffering will continue. Don’t be afraid to go to the well again, or to let Jack Daniels show your sadness who’s the boss.
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Trukindog said:
on July 8, 2008 at 11:17 pmMy heart aches for you and your whole family darlin.
Remember the strength of your family together will see each of you through this, you will each have moments of weekness and you will each have moments of great strength.
My Prayers are with you.
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bubblewench said:
on July 9, 2008 at 06:05 amIf you need anything.. let me know, I’m not that far away, even if you just need to get out for a little bit. Prayers and love to your family, I know this is hard.
Lisa said:
on July 9, 2008 at 07:02 amI’m so sorry to hear about your father-in-law. I hope his final days will be pain free and surrounded by loving family. I hope that you will find comfort in knowing that soon his suffering will end.
I wish I had magic words to make your sadness go away but know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. You have a community of bloggers who care about you very much…take comfort in that.
**Hugs**
NYCWD said:
on July 9, 2008 at 07:12 amThere’s really nothing to say that can make this better… just know that we’re here for you…
**HUGS**
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Robin said:
on July 9, 2008 at 09:25 am(((BIG HUGS)))
Lynda said:
on July 9, 2008 at 10:26 amI am so sorry to hear of your father-in-law. I’m here for you if you need to talk.
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Nobody™ said:
on July 9, 2008 at 01:41 pmI’ll be thinking of you and your family. Hang in there.
mixednut said:
on July 9, 2008 at 02:24 pmSending you well wishes and hugs.
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turnbaby said:
on July 9, 2008 at 03:52 pm{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}
I wish I could do it for real
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Fantastagirl said:
on July 9, 2008 at 04:08 pmI wish I could be there for you in person. Hang in there, sending you well wishes and hugs!
flip flop momma said:
on July 9, 2008 at 09:21 pmthis just plain sucks
i will be thinking of u guys..
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Hilly said:
on July 9, 2008 at 10:23 pmYou have my love, my prayers and my hand to hold for as long as you need it.
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delmer said:
on July 10, 2008 at 09:27 pmI’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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Winter said:
on July 11, 2008 at 12:34 pmI’m here, darlin’. Email me and I’ll send you my phone #. I can sing Metallica in your ear when you need a little smile. I’ll be thinking of you and sending strength vibes to you. *HUGS*
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Karl said:
on July 11, 2008 at 10:23 pmAw, I’m very sorry to hear this. My prayers are with him and your family.
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