Thursday January 20th 2011, 7:58 PM
Filed under: happy,kids,love

The Giggle in My House

The job situation for Son2 has always been a bit uncertain. He works for an electrical company during the day. However, depending on the building going on, he can be laid off for the winter, or for a few days, or for a week or two. That’s why he has job two- at a bowling alley. Job 2 has always helped to keep money in his bank account and is always flexible about starting times, so that if he is late on the first job, he can still go into work an hour later if he needs to.

Times- like now- he is up at 5:30, gets home at 4, goes to the second job at 5 and works until roughly 1-2am. This is not every night of the week!!  But it is often enough that on his night off, he has been known to fall asleep in his work clothes, unshowered and unfed and will sleep the night away.

One of Son2’s faults used to be his temper. He would get impatient, annoyed, and snippy and suddenly start yelling at anyone within an arm’s length. He has grown up and learned to conduct himself in a more adult way, but on occasion we see the old fella rear his ugly head. Those occasions would be when his work schedule catches up with him. That day of the week would be Wednesdays. I knew to treat him with kid gloves, try to get him a favorite dinner, and above all… hugging or kissing!

Lately, he has been a different person. He may come home from work tired, cold and muddy and instead of being a bundle of raw nerves, he simply sighs and says that he had rough day. He may mention being tired or hungry, but it is conversational, not confrontational.

And then he goes upstairs.

Lately, his girlfriend has been driving him to his second job. She is here early and has dinner with us. She waits in his room while he changes, just chatting and sharing a visit in the little time they have. She is a very cool girl and she shares his interests of sports, music and movies.  He likes her enough to bring her to family celebrations. (HUGE!). He spends money on her, taking her out to dinner at restaurants that don’t have commercials or jingles.

And then I hear a sound…….

…..a giggle…..

……NOT a girl’s giggle!!!!

I don’t hear it frequently enough and it was a shock at first. Now, I hear the teasing.  He teases her and she will laugh or tell him to shut up. He cares that she has a cold. He offers to fix her tea or get her Nyquil.  I don’t know this man but I smile when I hear him speak to her when he thinks no one can hear him.  If I ask him about this relationship, I will get a sly smile and a shrug, but no answers, but mom knows.

He has softened his rough edges. He is maturing. He is happy. She makes him happy. She gives him the space he needs.

He gives her a ‘dutch oven’.

It might be love.


  1. Sybil Law said:

    on January 20, 2011 at 8:54 PM

    That is so cute!
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  2. Metalmom said:

    on January 20, 2011 at 9:17 PM

    SybilLaw-It’s an awesome thing when you learn that one of your kids has a “someone”. :)

  3. Grant said:

    on January 21, 2011 at 9:45 AM

    Is “Dutch oven” code for anal sex? Also, does he not know the rule that you never give a woman anything useful? Smelly things, expensive rocks, stuff like that – yes. Stuff that can be used to make or fix or clean other stuff? Not so much. If he keeps that up, he’ll buy her a new vacuum for her birthday and get the stare in return and then he’ll be doing the Dutch oven by hand. Be a proper mom and instruct him on the ways of achieving anal.
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  4. Megan said:

    on January 21, 2011 at 12:52 PM

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  5. Metalmom said:

    on January 21, 2011 at 1:55 PM

    Grant-“Mom”, “son”,and “anal” are NEVER to be in the same comment!!!!! @-)

  6. Metalmom said:

    on January 21, 2011 at 1:56 PM

    Megan- Big smiles all around. :d

  7. bubblewench said:

    on January 24, 2011 at 11:41 AM

    It’s totally love if he’s got the Dutch Oven going on.

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  8. Metalmom said:

    on January 24, 2011 at 12:10 PM

    bubblewench-Could be….! :d

  9. teri said:

    on January 24, 2011 at 3:57 PM

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  10. Metalmom said:

    on January 24, 2011 at 8:21 PM

    teri- :))

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