Wednesday March 30th 2011, 10:54 AM
Filed under: business,fashion,Hubs,ineptitude,questions

Hopes and Fears

One of the responsibilities of having our own business is dealing directly with our customers. Hubs does this daily when he discusses the work they want done, when he goes over blueprints, and when he does the actual work in their offices, stores, and most importantly, in their homes. There have been so very many times when we have helped build a store, wired in the offices and then helped the owners build and wire their own homes. Relationships are built and this leads to word-of-mouth advertising and reputation-building. These things are priceless.

I hope I can be professional enough……

I, on the other hand, have become the voice of our company. I am the first voice they hear when they contact us. They tell me what they want, when they need it and depend on me to get that information to Hubs. I deal with the secretaries and wives frequently over the years, but still….we aren’t friends and we don’t really know each other.

I hope I can remember to watch my language……

On Saturday night, we are going to a dinner party being held by a client to celebrate the completion of their new home. Everyone-from contractors, carpenters, plumbers, painters, etc- has been invited. Hubs knows these people., some of them for years. I know no one.

I hope I don’t embarrass Hubs….

I try to avoid these things as much as possible. For one thing, these people are all strangers to me. For another, many of them are soccer moms. My kids are all grown. They discuss day care, camps, dance class and tutors. They get their nails done and hair highlighted and go for massages. Me? I took off my “Union blue” nail polish this morning and now I am looking at blue cuticles that I hope will fade by the weekend. I have to go shopping for a pair of dress slacks (HATE THAT SHIT!!!) and pray that I find some!

I hope I don’t spill my food or drink on myself…….

I am not looking forward to this. It is only Wednesday and I am already feeling the fear. Of  what? I’m not sure. Will I have something to contribute to the conversations? Will I have anything in common with these women? If this hostess does a seating chart (yes they do stuff like that) will I sit near enough to my husband? I don’t hover or stick like glue to him, but I like that I can casually touch his sleeve in passing to feel a little more grounded.

I hope my breath don’t stink……

I didn’t even feel this level of angst when I was meeting all of my blogger friends for the first time.

I hope I don’t accidently fart…….


  1. Megan said:

    on March 30, 2011 at 12:20 PM

    You are charming and funny and lovely. You have a killer smile. What’s not to love?

    You’ll be fine. Promise.

  2. Metalmom said:

    on March 30, 2011 at 12:37 PM

    Oh, Megan. Thank you so much. It means alot. I am seriously feeling anxiety every time I think of this. Hubs is a sport and says “We don’t HAVE to be there.” But I know that “yes we do”. Business is business…..sigh….

  3. Robin said:

    on March 31, 2011 at 8:22 AM

    I always worry when dealing with photog clients, always. I have social anxiety so just getting on the phone is hard but I think doing this work has made my anxiety a little less.
    Robin´s last blog post ..In My Cyber World

  4. Metalmom said:

    on March 31, 2011 at 10:22 AM

    Robin-I am right there with you, especially on the phone deal. If I did more of the ‘face-to-face’ I’d be more relaxed I think. You have been doing a great job!

  5. Sybil Law said:

    on April 3, 2011 at 9:37 AM

    You’ll be fine! What’s not to love?
    Is it THIS Saturday – coming up? You wrote this Wednesday, right? So now I’m all confused.
    J. Crew has great, dressy pants.

  6. Grant said:

    on April 4, 2011 at 8:35 AM

    The best way to avoid accidental farting is to do it on purpose. Then loudly claim ownership. “Me! I did that!” Then get drunk and hit on somebody’s teenaged son and barf on the buffet. That way you’ll never get invited anywhere again. Problem solved.
    Grant´s last blog post ..Symmetry

  7. bubblewench said:

    on April 6, 2011 at 6:19 AM

    I’m late to the party, but I KNOW you were totally fine.. It’s YOU.. seriously..

    I’m so glad I went back and looked at the date of this post cause I was like NUH UH! Not THIS Saturday!! I’m kidnapping your ass early Sat AM..
    bubblewench´s last blog post ..Lucky update and Seven

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