My son just walked out the door. It was a reflex but I said “Good Luck”. I hate to do that, because it almost feels like a jinx. I just couldn’t help myself. The words were out of my mouth before I could stop them. He isn’t on his way to take his driver’s test again. Not this time.
Today, he is headed to an appeal hearing.
He left his previous job (one that lays him off every winter) and started working for another company. This company had similar work, but it was different every day. There was less outdoor/in the mud/heavy lifting involved. The money was slightly better, the people – for the most part- nicer, and best of all……he liked it. Every day, he came home tired, but happy. This was a son I hadn’t seen in a while. Every day I thanked God that things were going well for him.
Just after the holidays….within a day or two of breaking up with his girlfriend AND failing his driver’s test….he was fired.
He had been told that part of his job wasn’t done. He claimed that the boss hadn’t told him about that part, but he went ahead and did it. A co-worker went to the boss and told him that Son bitched and moaned and said that he wasn’t a mind reader and that the boss was an ass. Son denied that ever happened and I believe him (“Mom, I liked that job and the makeup work wasn’t that big of a deal”) Boss said he didn’t need an employee who couldn’t take direction and said that “it just wasn’t working out.”
Son was devastated.
Anyway, he was advised to see if he was eligible for unemployment benefits. Department of Labor told him yes and so he applied and began receiving benefits. A few weeks ago, on the last day that he could possibly appeal, the boss did exactly that. Today, it will be decided if the boss was wrong, or if Son has to repay the money received. Of course, in the two months between the firing and the appeal notice, Son had paid his bills. The money is not there.
Can things get any shittier for him? Yes. It will be bad if he needs to come up with this money. Of course, we will help him out, by paying back most if not all of the debt. Son will take the help but not be one bit happy about it. That means that he will owe his father, something that is, in his book, worse than root canal. He will work on weekends for free to pay us back. He will clean gutters, wash trucks and whatever ‘bitch work’ happens to come up.
I don’t know if it’s worse on him to be doing it, or on me watching and knowing that it really isn’t his fault.
Please think good thoughts.
****The latest: Boss never showed up, never cancelled with the court. Son took off a day of work (that he needed) just to be told “never mind”. Does this mean the appeal is dismissed? Not a clue, but his current boss says that the court frowns on that shit and most likely will rule in Son’s favor. God I hope so!!!! Thanks for your positive energy and it wouldn’t hurt to ask to keep it coming. Love you all!!