Weather or Not
Day in, day out. Every day is the same. Wake up, look out the window, see the snow, drink some coffee.
This weather is getting to everyone it seems. Even children are sick of being outside in it, tired of being home from school. Some of them will be going to school in the summer. Moms are running out of ideas to keep the kids entertained. Some of them are ready to pull their own hair out, stuck indoors with yelling kids and a house that never quite makes it to ‘clean’.
And then there is the majority of people. Men and women unable to get to work. Weather makes it impossible to get there. Weather makes it impossible to work in the elements. School closings make it impossible to find child care.
Weather plays such a huge part in our lives. There may be little money coming in, but the bills keep coming too, needing to be paid. We need heat. We need food. We need tuition, insurance, gas and cars. Luckily we can band together and get through this. But what of others?
With every report of foul weather, be it ice, snow, rain, or wind, my heart clenches for those out there who go paycheck to paycheck. Those who have no paycheck coming in. Those who have landlords, repo companies, debt collectors unwilling or unable to cut them some slack.
My days are all the same.
For some folks, their days will never be the same.
Nature Couldn’t Stop It
You weathered many obstacles and no doubt will continue to do so. Rain my have caused your beach wedding to move indoors, but you were in the shelter of the love of family and friends. Nature cannot stop love. “What God has joined together, let no one put asunder”
This weekend my Hubs and I drove to North Carolina to witness the union of Blondeblogger and her sweetheart Boobtubious.
First of all, I made sure I had a new dress to wear on the beach. Because it was a beach wedding, I made sure to take my flats and flipflops for dancing in afterwards. I was prepared. New shoes, dress, jeans for pre-wedding dinner night, and a new hoodie (with no stains!) I have never been so excited about wearing a dress.
The ride down was not as unbearable as I had expected. Hubs and I saw a few cool things, like the origin of the Chesapeake Bay and the tunnel bridges that were incredible. Midway across the bridge I realized that I was totally surrounded by water. Kinda scary!
After a beautiful day of driving in the bright sunshine and hot sun, we got to the wedding house just in time for the wind to kick up. I’m not talking about a nice, cool sea breeze, I am talking about blow-the-chairs-across-the-deck and brace-yourself wind. Clouds and rain came along with it and like a bout of the flu, the rain hung around……for the entire weekend. So much for the wedding on the beach. and so….the wedding moved indoors.
Talk about a beautiful wedding! I can’t remember ever seeing a more happy union of two families. The kids all love each other. They love their new parents. And they loved meeting mom and dad’s blogger friends. It was like we had known them all forever. Before the wedding, I watched as Boobtubious helped N. check her blood sugars and give her an insulin shot. The gentleness of this man with the little girl who was to be his stepdaughter was so touching. I watched as Blondeblogger laughed and joked with her new stepkids. K genuinely likes to spend time laughing and dancing with her new stepmom. J said that he had never seen his dad so happy and was glad that his dad chose a woman that everyone loved.
I was honored that my ‘sister’ wanted me there on this special day. I was honored that I witnessed the love that she shares with this man. I was blown away to see the unabashed loved that is shared by all eight of this unique family.
I was happy to see old friends…Ren, Dawg, Poppy, Bubblewench….and to make new friends like MomGenerations. It was one hell of a weekend.
***It was so cold that I ended up wearing jeans to the wedding. Yes, jeans. Someone get married in the summer so I can wear my new damn dress!!!
***Boobtubious told his daughter that they were planning a surprise of 150 trained dolphins that were to jump out of the ocean into a heart shaped arch upon the completion of the vows. She believed him. It was a funny joke and she took the teasing like a champ. But I’d still kinda like to see something like that. If anyone figures out how to do that, let me know.
***Lastly….Thank you Blondeblogger, for keeping your cool. You were the center of attention with grace and beauty. Thank you. No one needed to see my boobies hit my knees.
As I looked through the archives to see if I had any new insights into 9/11, I noticed two things. One, my insights haven’t changed. Two, I always seem to be down with a major allergy flareup.
This year is no different.
First off, after a lot of the storms blew through here, we had some yard work to do. No damage to the house, thank God, but lots of debris strewn through the yard. Son2 was doing gutter work, Hubs was handling the bigger branches and I was on rake duty. After about half an hour, with three quarters of the yard done, I was suddenly tired. Like SUDDENLY. My legs were shaky, my arms were too. I wanted to drop the rake. Afraid that it was my back, I stopped doing everything and went into the house to lie down.
After awhile, I felt normal again and took a shower, a few ibuprophen and then relaxed for the rest of the night.
The next day, my arms and legs still felt tired. I got up got dressed and moved to the couch….
where I stayed for the next three days.
Yep, three days. I called the doctor and he told me to stay put and just keep taking the ibuprophen and sleep. Apparently this is something that is happening in this area. Nothing to pinpoint, it just goes away in a couple of days. But in the meantime, every joint in my body hurt. My muscles felt clenched and even my jaw felt like I was constantly grinding my teeth. It was the worst, but thankfully, it passed.
Only for me to get hit with allergies. The rains have kicked up the mold in the yard and now I have the sneezing, runny nose and sore throat. I am on day four and my Zyrtec has done a bang up job on drying up the faucet known as ‘nose’.
I need a day or two on a beach with friends, and love, and drinks…..
Oh, yeah! I’m heading to North Carolina for BlondeBlogger’s wedding! I’ll be seeing Poppy, Bubblewench and others!! So see that sentence up there about the day or two on the beach? I”M GOIN’!!
Summer is such a lazy time. The heat slows things down to a slow crawl and my head is no exception. There is no inspiration these days. Life is good. Things are moving along but there is nothing truly blog-worthy. I’ve been dating my husband, seeing movies, spending time alone and such.
However, August is upon me and with it comes a full calendar. The baby shower for Son1 and Shenanigans is coming this weekend, as well as a party/event that involves my beloved Philadelphia Union. Saturday will be long but worth a post or two. Immediately following that, I’ll be headed off to the beach for a much anticipated week. Beyond that, we will be preparing for Babygirl to head off to college again.
Two big events are also looming on that horizon. One is the wedding of my dear ‘twin’. She is marrying a friend from grade school whom she met at one of our mini-reunions. I am very excited and happy for both of them. The other is the wedding of BlondeBlogger. I will be travelling to North Carolina for the ceremony and am taking Hubs. Once more, this will be blog worthy.
And so, I just wanted to let y’all know that I have not fallen off the face of the earth. I am just trying to stay chill in all of this weather from hell. I hope you all are cool as well.
Until next time……
I want to say a few things so here we go with a new vintage of whine…
The charger to my laptop has given up the ghost. I am hoping that the cost to replace it is covered under my insurance with Best Buy. Now I know that more than a few of my friends have issues with them, but I have always gotten good results-once I get past the long wait in line or the time it takes to get my stuff back. Lucky for me, the charger that Babygirl uses also works on my laptop, so I will use that, for now, but will also cut back on my use. What will I do with myself?
The weather has been great and I really want to take down my curtains and wash them or sort through boxes in the basement. I wanted to wait until Babygirl was home from college to help me but to tell you the truth part of me wants to see her relax or earn money for school. Part of me is afraid of hurting my back and the biggest part of me is lazy.
I’m going to the shore with Hubs this weekend. His high school is having a gathering near where we vacation and so we will drop in there. We have taken overnight trips here or there. Most are only that-overnight-but a few have been two. This one is Friday to Monday. FOUR DAYS! I am so excited to be away from our computers, cell phones and cable tv. I used to worry about my kids when I went away, but now I worry that the dogs won’t poop for them. (Bandit avoids it) Now I’ll worry that Mordecai will eat all of Bandit’s food when he’s not looking. Damn ‘kids’……
Started shopping for my future grandSON. He already has some Philadelphia Union gear.(YAY) I am also looking at shower gifts. When did kid stuff get to be so fucking expensive? It’s a racket. The gear for humans that will barely have time to wear/use/fit in is atrociously costly. $500 and up for a crib? $300+ for a car seat that they will use for little more than a year? Holy shit!
And so, that is my wildly exciting life. What have you been up to?
On The Road Again…
No shit, it has been awhile.
There isn’t much going on here that is exciting for y’all. I’ve just been spending time with Hubs and Bandit. The weather has been pretty crappy. (Not as crappy as everyone dealing with the flooding and the tornadoes. What’s up with that??) It’s just been cold and then hot. It’s been cloudy and there’s no way to tell what is rain and what isn’t. It just sucks.
We visited Holly for Easter. That was pretty nice. We got a motel room and spent Saturday night first having dinner with her and the boyfriend and then just chilling in the hotel. For Easter, we went out for breadfast together and then back to the dorm for “trip one” of bringing her stuff home. I think next year, she’d better not pack everything that she owns!
Today I packed for the next adventure…Pittsburgh PA, to visit with Becky, aka Hellohahanarf. I’ve never been to Pittsburgh long enough to look around so this is exciting for me. From there, we will go to Cincinnati to kidnap SybilLaw to join our little caravan. And the final leg of our trip will take us to Bagwine OH and a party with MattMan and his gal Schmoop. This will be an epic gathering. Following Bagwine, we will take Sybil home and party with Sodapop and Laci. Hubs has already said that this is the last time I can take off on him for this year. (We’ll see about that…)
And so. I never finished this yesterday and I sit here with the news on…..looking at the horrid devastation that visited Alabama, Georgia, and many other southern states. There are also severe weather warnings for the state of Pennsylvania and of course that is for when Bubblewench and I hit the road. Don’t worry, she is a very safe driver and will stop rather than drive through the crap. I’m taking you with me, so I’ll update when I can.
Let the adventure begin….
Signs Of Spring
The signs of spring are sprouting everywhere. Babygirl and I were out to
enjoy the warmth.
The trees are starting to bloom as well as the crocuses.
Even Iron Man was outdoors in the flowers.
I can’t wait until it’s here to stay…..
Listen to the Wind Blow
As I’ve gotten older, I have noticed that I have also gotten to be a chicken/crybaby/worrywart. I am afraid of spiders, no matter what size. They make my palms sweat, my scalp tingle and my heart race. There was never a traumatic incident to bring this on, and yet it is a fact of my life.
The only other thing that can get me so upset, is the weather.
The door to our first apartment was at the top of a fire escape staircase. Looking out of the door, I could see wires of all kinds- for the trolley line that stopped at the end of the driveway, for the train that stopped across the street, and the electric, phone and power lines that attached to the building. I was terrified that lightning would strike the power lines and bring wires down, trapping me in the apartment alone. I was afraid that it would hit the stairway where I would carelessly step and be electrocuted. Perhaps part of that fear came from the fact that this was the first time I was out of my parent’s home. I was in my own place, with my new baby and my husband was working until six or seven in the evening.
Our second place was surrounded by trees. For the first time in my life, I was so close to the treetops. The wind would blow, whipping the branches against the windows and walls. What if lightning were to strike one? I had a little boy with me. I was pregnant with another. It was an old house converted into apartments. We were on the second floor, directly under the roof. The windows rattled and thunder sounded so very close.
I learned to relax in our house. No trees too close, in-laws only a few houses away, and a second floor between me and the elements. An enclosed porch on each side of the house kept me from actually seeing the trashcan blow away or the lightning flashes.
But we left there and moved here. Again I am surrounded by trees. If something were to happen, I am on the corner of a busy street. Someone would notice. I am still afraid of the thunder. However, I know that I won’t be struck by lightning. It will strike a tree or power line first…..right? (Don’t tell me if that is not true. Let me be in my ignorance!)
Two of the trees next to the house tilt. Their trunks are not straight and of course when the wind blows, my imagination gets to working. Was the ground around the trunk always bulging that far out? Have the chipmunks or moles been busy with their tunnels around the roots? The holes I saw on the ground–were they from acorns? From cicadas or hornets? or are they signs of soil eroding….?
We have tornado warnings and wind advisories in my area today until seven pm. The wind has been blowing like a bitch all day. I don’t live in “Tornado Alley”. It’s not like this happens all the time. I can’t imagine what some of you experience when it happens two, three or four times a week in your area.
My logical mind tells me to relax. What happens will happen. Why borrow worry? The chances of something like that happening to me are fairly slim. Well, no matter what, I will sit here with my heart in my throat until Hubs comes home. Only then will I relax. But when the lights are out and it’s time for bed, I’ll lay there…..no sleep for me….I’ll be listening to the wind….
New Note: Power is out in three neighborhoods adjacent to mine. It’s only a matter of time befo
During the preparations for Christmas, Hubs injured himself.
He is one of those manly men who doesn’t want me to help him carry the Christmas tree from the car to the house. He carried bags of gifts into the house as well as all the groceries that were needed for the Christmas Eve party. He managed to feel a tweak in his groinal area, but never fear. He’ll go to the doctor “after the holidays-when he can afford to take time off”
And so he did. The doctor’s preliminary diagnosis was hernia, and Hubs should go see a surgeon and get that taken care of. Never fear. He’ll get it taken care of “after a few of these jobs-when he can afford to take time off”
Before he could do that, the snows began to blanket the Northeast. Week after week it snowed and each time Hubs went outside to shovel the walk, the steps, the driveway. I followed behind him like some kind of yapping Chihuahua…”Stop! Take a rest! Let Son2 do this! Pay the kid next door! You’re gonna hurt yourself! You’re not young anymore!” But, no. “People need generators. I need to take this work while we have it. Soon I’ll take time off”
No, he did not hurt himself further. He didn’t hurt his back or his hernia. He worked at the jobs and made people happy. And between the two of us, since the pain wasn’t there, we pushed it out of our minds.
Then came the graduation party.
He removed bushes and put in a garden. He carried folding tables and chairs. He put in a table leaf and got ice for the coolers. I was the chihuahua once more. “Please let someone help you!” “It’s easier to do it myself. Never fear, I’m fine.”
And then, shortly into the party, he did it. He came to me and said, “I need to take something and lay down. I won’t be able to stand much longer.” And then, the hosting duties fell on my shoulders. He spent the next couple of days lying around. We made a doctor’s appointment and I was satisfied…for a bit.
Then there were horrible storms in our area and suddenly people want generators. (Generator installation is BIG money and will go a long way to holding us over those times when there is no work and the college tuition payments come due) He still managed to take it easy and did alot of supervising. But there are still some things that cannot be left to my nephew alone. And so, he carefully did his job.
When he finally saw the doctor, we were surprised at his comments. It doesn’t look like a hernia at all. It looks as if the muscle is detaching from the bone. This is soooo not good. Yesterday Hubs got a CAT scan which made him horribly ill. And now we are awaiting the results.
Would it have made any difference if he had gone sooner? I don’t know. If it were hernia and it had gotten worse, I could say “I told you so” but now….I just get to worry. I don’t know of anyone who had this type of injury. I don’t know how it is treated or how long recovery will be. I want him to get this taken care of right away, but if he does, he won’t be able to help Babygirl and I get ready for her to move into the dorms. I don’t like the not knowing. Looking things up online can be so confusing or misleading. The doctors are fond of saying “X number of weeks or rehab” I prefer hearing someone who has been through it that says, “The doctor will say 8 weeks but it’s really more like 6” Somehow, while it is still vague, it is more reassuring.
Never fear, whatever it is, I’ll let you know…..
Sooo…..long time, no blog…
What’s new? Well…..let’s see….The weather has been nice and I’ve taken advantage of it–throwing the windows open and enjoying the breeze that blows in. I love when my house smells like fresh air instead of ‘air conditioned’ and ‘febrezed’ air. I’ve enjoyed my morning coffee outside in the back yard with my dog. What else….?
That’s about it.
Tomorrow I am off for an overnight with the gals. We plan on swimming, cooking out, camping out, and hanging out. I need some girl time and Hubs needs some ‘stupid movie and naps’ time. Both of us are looking forward to the time apart, as well as the ‘reunion’ on Sunday evening!
I hope all of you enjoy the long weekend. Eat, drink, and make merry with your friends and families. Have fun at your barbecues, parades and fireworks.
And remember that little thing called Freedom……and thank your lucky stars and stripes that we have it!!